“Get up and go to the Potter’s House and you will hear the Word of the Lord . . .”
Jeremiah 18:1–4

Repeatedly, we have seen and been given information about young men who have had the greatest potential to turn heads and create new avenues of success for themselves and those around them, but there’s always tragic story of failure and consistent bad choices.

Just a little information to start off: there are more than three million people in American prisons.

Our young men and boys are being swallowed up by a society that doesn’t care about either the future of this country or the state of the family unit’s future. And those who are working to make something of themselves are receiving bits and pieces of correct information, yet fail to see what things history can offer as direction and hope.

This would fall on the literal use of the words: RESPECT, DETERMINATION and LEGACY

Neither of which has a meaning or cause to the last two generations.

Base problem: too many boys are trying to act like men and do not understand that they have to be active in the lives of their children OUTSIDE OF PROVIDING A FEW DOLLARS in order to stay out of jail for child support violations.

The problem with society is that we have become selfish, self-centered, and greedy.

Some fathers—not all—seek to teach their children the methods of getting over any and all people no matter the relationship. They fail to provide information for creating cycles of achievement over distinct obstacles in manners which would then teach them how to give direct information to their offspring so they can achieve a greater number of life successes than the generation which lived before them.

Empty Pot 1The molds of the Good Father seems to have been demolished and caste into the toilet.

In the first two verses of the fourth chapter of Proverbs, Solomon gave instructions to his children stewed in logic, respect, understanding, and a pattern for the future.

In adjacent to this, the Fredrick Douglass quote—which is quote for Odd Man Out—falls in line with the mood of this post. “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”

Empty Pot 2Let’s slow down right here. There are those parents who make the lame and negative statement,
“DON’T TELL MY CHILD ANYTHING” or “LEAVE MY CHILD ALONE BECAUSE THEY CAN FEND FOR THEMSELVES.”

In these two statements, there are no building blocks and a profitless support system which offers nothing in the areas of feeding positive influences into the child’s mind and heart. These are statements that are part of the systemic problem which limits the social skill and maturity required for children to become viable adults.

No one wants any instruction or information which will cause them to have to do and live better. They have settled to live in mediocrity and cyclic ignorance and live their entire days blaming others for fallacies and problems they have created for themselves and their families. An ADULT-CHILD is defined as any person who lacks the absolute most basic human life skills by reason of not having learned them through the formative years of childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood.

There are no concrete answers that can be given to change the immediate generation (29–45 years old) or the eldest generations (60–75 years old). Both are seeking to gain all that they can for themselves and do it in the quickest manner in which they are able: selfishly with arms, legs, and limited potential.

In the March 7th installment of this blog The Risk of Engagement is the epitome of examples about the choices and decisions which take time and feed into the life and future of a child. You might have heard it a thousand times over and over: time with a child is precious to that child, but we miss out because we desire instant results and quick successes. We live in a microwave society. We want it now and chase it at all costs.

Here we have young men, who may have great potential to raise strong children who can become great and prosperous adults, but the problem remains that they are boys pretending to be men pretending to want to be good dads, while lacking the social and personal skills to adequately communicate to others outside of their circles of influence, let alone step out and become better than the cycles they keep fighting to remain living and struggling in.

The understanding of who our children are and why they should be considered as just empty vessels before a full and running fountain is not a real stretch of the imagination. Parenting is a tough job. Being a productive adult with children is most times an uphill climb if certain choices and behaviors are not abandoned early in life. The father in the life of his children should be that one individual who is willing to lay down all friends, habits, and some forms of enjoyment in efforts to creates not only bonds with his children, but also be the catalyst so his sons can be men of distinction.

There will be those days that we make a mistake and may put cracks into the vessel, but a little nurturing love repairs those miscues; a serious dad picks up the pieces and keeps moving things along for the better. “Be all to beat all” should be the moniker taken in most households.

The problem is that having children to some men is just another notch in the headboard. Some could care less about the well-being of their child outside of getting the next lay conquered. There are far too many women in this country trying to do the job of two and being frustrated when she runs into a capable man who wants to take the burden off of her shoulder and assist in rearing a child which is not his biological because the boy-man doesn’t want to let anyone else have his proverbial toys.

I am not speaking out of conjecture or fiction; I have lived this and wish that those who choose not to do right by their children make the decision to pick up the load they created or get the hell out of the way.

In all choices, the well-being and nurturing of the child must come first and be paramount.

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