It can be said that when on a road trip, the GPS is often the second voice of direction given to the husband. The first and determined voice the husband hears is that of his wife. She is not shouting, but is talking with that distinctive “you better be listening to me because I am 98% right on this” tone.

Though I never fuss at the extra advice, I take it as the means of keeping the lines of communication between myself and my bride fresh and filled with great opportunities of jokes the moment she is wrong.

After all these days of sharing my life with this woman, I realize that the paths God has place in our lives were never meant to be smooth and serene, but filled with the bumps, twists, and turns and a few detours designed to grow our fellowship within the relationship.

It may be difficult for some to realize, but a great marriage relationship has to be open to the catalyst of fellowship. NO RELATIONSHIP CAN BE GREAT WITHOUT HONEST COMMUNICATION. Sex is secondary to the ongoing conversation which fills the emotional and spiritual content it takes to navigate through this destructive life.



We all know that the man is to be the leader of the house, but without the respect and trust of his spouse, that leadership is pointless and then becomes forced. It is forced upon her through bad language, demeaning words, and the “push-pull” tactics to draw her in. If the relationship boils down to the covert motives of getting over on the other, then the marriage relationship is doomed to drive off in the ditch.

The roads that each couple is given in life should have the objective of reaching that sixty-five year retirement goal together. The kids are to be dropped off at their paths and left to drive their own cars in life, while this married couple continues on their own paths. NO ONE CAN NAVIGATE TWO VEHICLES and still be successful, healthy, and sane.

Recently, Kirk Cameron offered advice to married couples, but with underlying motives that serve his purpose of getting a paycheck and remaining relevant as an actor over that of being the Christian father/husband he portrays in life. Though I do agree that the holidays are important, the role of the wife in the house is not that of a subjugated servant. She is the partner of the man she chose to share her heart with Christ (Proverbs 18:22 & Proverb 31:10–31). Trust the outlier in the relationship. Trust cannot and love cannot be buried in work or direction, but share duties and responsibilities.

Holidays are just that: holidays. They are single, stand-alone billboards, seen on the couples drive through distinct turns over the years. They are man-made and filled with fabricated stories that are designed to pull at the emotions. Joy and happiness has come from fellowship and enjoyment the couple experiences on life’s journey together (Genesis 2:24 & Ephesians 5:31).

The focus on one time, one week, or one month of the year speaks only to a relationship that is determined to choose specific points in the journey to deal with one another on emotional terms. My side seat driver is that person who rides shotgun and is looking out for those unnoticed bumps and warning signs that could derail the love relationship we keep building stronger each day.

Yeah, the GPS is that second voice speaking in the car, but the first voice that speaks to us on our life’s journey comes from Christ each moment we hold hands, close our eyes and pray with and for each other.

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